help with behaviour

Most parents will have times when they worry about their child’s behaviour or their own parenting. As people often say, kids don’t come with an instruction manual and this can feel doubly true if your child has additional needs.

Some of our children have conditions that make them more likely to have behaviour problems. Even needs that are not directly related to behaviour can have an impact; children that are struggling with learning or communicating will often express this by acting up. In fact this is sometimes the first clue there is a real problem. two boys having a pillow fightLots of parents will also experience other people criticising their parenting or judging them and their child because of their behaviour. This can be from those close to us, members of the public or even professionals we see about our child. We may find it hard to work out ourselves what is ‘normal’ bad behaviour and what is down to our child’s special needs.

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I find I am treading a fine line. I feel awful that I was too hard on him when he was little because I didn’t know he had those extra needs and I thought he just wasn’t trying. But I don’t want to let him get away with things just because he has a label now. I’ve got to help him learn that some things aren’t OK. So every day I am picking my battles, pushing on some stuff but trying to be realistic and kind too. And then you have to try not to take it all personally of course.


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